50 Shades of Grey was originally fanfiction based on the Twilight series, which was then published as a novel (along with 2 subsequent books). It sold over 100 million copies around the world and topped best-seller lists everywhere. It’s about to be adapted into a film, set to come out early next year.
It follows a college student named Ana Steele, who enters a relationship with a man named Christian Grey and is then introduced to a bastardised and abusive parody of BDSM culture.
While the book is paraded as erotica, the relationship between Ana and Christian is far from healthy. The core mantra of the BDSM community is “safe, sane and consensual”, and 50 Shades is anything but. None of the rules of BDSM practices (which are put in place to protect those involved) are actually upheld. Christian is controlling, manipulative, abusive, takes complete advantage of Ana, ignores safe-words, ignores consent, keeps her uneducated about the sexual practices they’re taking part in, and a multitude of other terrible things. Their relationship is completely sickening and unhealthy.
Basically, “the book is a glaring glamorisation of violence against women,” as Amy Bonomi so perfectly put it.
It’s terrible enough that a book like this has been absorbed by people worldwide. Now, we have a film that is expected to be a huge box-office success, and will likely convince countless more young women that it’s okay not to have any autonomy in a relationship, that a man is allowed to control them entirely. It will also show many young men that women are theirs to play with and dominate, thus contributing to antiquated patriarchal values and rape culture.
Boycott this fucking movie, for the love of god. These kinds of ideas are dangerous and set us back as a society
Kurt Cobain talking in November 1991 about the background behind the song ‘Polly’ (via perfect)
Educating men and women about safe sex and consent is great. But being capable of defending yourself is certainly not the problem- it is actually incredibly smart. Rapists know rape is wrong. The boy who had been harassing me for weeks in my first year of college was fully aware I had a boyfriend and was not interested. He knew it was wrong, and still, he broke into my room. Still, he climbed into my bed while I was sleeping, and despite knowing I did not consent or have ANY desire for him, he attempted to touch me. Thankfully, my years of soccer and knowledge of self defense enabled me to beat the dogshit out of him, and I was not raped. Rape is about control. I imagine if he had known how hard I was going to beat his ass, he would have left me alone. Not telling people how to defend themselves is incredibly dangerous, because all you get are now defenseless men and women who will STILL BE ATTACKED. Not knowing how to protect yourself will not stop a rapist. There will most likely be rapists until the end of human civilization. This boy knew what he was doing, and if I had had no knowledge of fighting, he could easily have overpowered me and the story would have a much worse ending. You might never be robbed, raped, or attacked at all in your life, I certainly never thought it would happen to me, but it is MUCH better to be safe than sorry. I will never regret knowing how to defend my body.
There are a lot of different schools of thought about brands of cat food, and some companies are even politically ridiculous (but make excellent food), and I don’t have the time or energy to rustle any jimmies. This is all personal advice, researched over a lifetime of having cats, knowing Biologists (some with g’damn doctorates) that do extensive pet food research for their own cats, and trial and error.
Basically, I personally don’t believe cat food is terribly affordable if it’s healthy. They need a diet high in protein/taurine/etc., and that ain’t cheap unless you’re cutting corners. That’s not even taking into account allergies/food sensitivities (from certain proteins, wheat, carageens, etc., etc.) or needing to switch to a vet-prescribed food. Also, cats can develop allergies to protein sources, so sometimes you might need to switch brands or protein sources altogether, or go to a Limited Ingredient Diet.
Here’s a list of ingredients that I personally avoid. It’s pretty extensive but it’s all well researched material. Protein should be the first ingredient in any cat food. I don’t believe in food with any grain or corn added in it (it probably doesn’t believe in me, either) and refuse to buy any food where it’s added. Organic and “All Natural” usually means fuck-all. Don’t fall for fancy bags or cans. Get used to reading labels. Wet food is best for all cats, raw food is great if your cats will eat it and you keep it all sanitary.
I used to work in a pet store and I saw way too many owners crying over the loss of their cats because (even they admitted and the vets agreed) they unknowingly fed very poor-quality, cheap food. A cat is a creature that needs just as healthy a diet, if not healthier, than humans. Our cats have been in great health because I’ve followed these simple, but slightly expensive rules of thumb.
If you’re not prepared to pay to keep your kitty healthy, I’d recommend getting a smaller pet like a rat that costs far less in food (and can even share some of yours), but is still cuddly, cute, clean and a companion.
SUPER good info.
As a side note about rat food, btw, there’s just as many companies willing to sell you shit quality food for your rat that is either bad for them or doesn’t have any nutritional value they need, BUT since rats eat a whole lot less it’s still really easy to get your ratty cheap food that’s also super good for them! When I had my rat, I spent maybe $15 a month on her food.
Ah, every time I see someone talking about pet rats I want to get another little ratty friend. ;___; I love them so much.
All good information!! My girlfriend is in charge of getting food for our ratty friends but i know she would get upset hearing about people who aren’t feeding them right.
Side note- girlfriend/roommate are going to have like…12? 14? …a lot of ratty friends.
As a caveat, I was definitely not advocating feeding shitty rat food to ratty companions, and I never would. I was simply stating that it is cheaper to feed a teeny (.6- 1lb) animal who can also participate in some of your consumables than it is to feed a full-grown (perhaps 20lbs+, like ours) cat or two. We always feed our pets high-quality diets, no matter what species they are, and I wouldn’t advocate anything less. Our ratties ate a well-rounded diet that was supplemented with additional vitamins/minerals and lots of fresh foods (and yogurt drops, dear god, I miss sharing those), but in the end, it’s still much cheaper than feeding even one cat when you factor in both the weight and even sadly, the total lifespan. Any animal deserves respect in all areas of its care, I would never say otherwise.
This was really good information! I have personally witnessed the damage cheap, dollar store food can do. I rescued two cats who had been fed a diet of dollar store food and bologna for nearly three years. Both were nearly dead by the time I rescued them. One cat had been fed in this manner basically since birth, and because of the inconsistent feedings of awful foods, she still suffers from chronic diarrhea and my veterinarian estimates she will never weigh more than four pounds. Cheap, in the long run, is not better. Eating McDonald’s for every meal will make a person sick, and it is the same scenario with animals. Healthy, quality food costs more money, but in the long run, you will have a much happier, healthier animal. You don’t have to spend a hundred dollars a week feeding your cat, just remember to read the labels, research the company, and read reviews on the food before you choose. :))